Trust your instincts from the very first contact with a potential boyfriend.  Did he get a little too drunk on your initial dates?  A man who can’t get through the early stages of a relationship without using alcohol may have substance abuse issues.  Is he perpetually late, always offering bogus excuses?  He doesn’t value your time so don’t expect him to suddenly be punctual when you need him to be somewhere important.  Do you get a sense he is hiding something when he finds reasons why you can never come to his place?  Key into your visceral responses when you pick up vibes that don’t sit right with you.  Don’t make the mistake so many women make, thinking that all these negative behaviors will change once he falls in love with you.  They won’t.  They may even get worse.
Compatibility plays a role in dating more than you think it does, and you can use it to craft relationships that will bring you the happiness and love you deserve. This book is for women in all stages of dating and relationships, from the married and unsure to the single and hopeless. Relationships expert Barbara De Angelis has created a formula that you can use to find a relationship with a man that will last a lifetime, and you definitely don’t want to miss out.
"For long-lasting love, the more similarity (e.g., age, education, values, personality, hobbies), the better. Partners should be especially sure that their values match before getting into marriage. Although other differences can be accommodated and tolerated, a difference in values is particularly problematic if the goal is long-lasting love. Another secret for a long marriage: Both partners need to commit to making it work, no matter what. The only thing that can break up a relationship are the partners themselves."
Reminder yourself that being in a new relationship is a time of discovery and curiosity (and a lot is going to be new all at once). "To alleviate pressure, remind yourself to stay present and open," says Syrtash. And this goes for being true to yourself and trusting your gut instinct. It doesn't matter if someone is perfect on paper if they end up not being the right person for you.
Romantic love is a trap designed to get two people to overlook each other’s faults long enough to get some babymaking done. It generally only lasts for a few years at most. That dizzying high you get staring into your lover’s eyes as if they are the stars that make up the heavens — yeah, that mostly goes away. It does for everybody. So, once it’s gone, you need to know that you’ve buckled yourself down with a human being you genuinely respect and enjoy being with, otherwise things are going to get rocky.
I been knowing this guy for 6 years and we just went out on our first real date. About a month later he has been acting very weird. I don’t understand why he is acting like this. All I know he need to get in touch with me and let me know something. I am 10 years younger than this guy. However you need to be getting ready to find someone and marry. At the end of the day you are the one that’s getting old fast not me. I don’t know what else you want me to do. I am letting you know if you want me come get me. You know were I live. I just feel like you been using me and I am not going to put up with this no more. Be a man. Tell me what you need from me as a woman. I am a very beautiful young lady . You should not be treating me like this. All those other guys they mean nothing to me I want you.

Other good advice: “Always be unexpected.” This doesn’t have to be in grand gestures, but predictability in a relationship = boring = death of romance. Worst Advice? “Don’t worry, it’ll happen.” If I wanted to learn French, if someone told me “Don’t worry, it’ll happen,” how stupid does that sound?! Dating is a skill set like every other and you get out of it what you put into it.
But trust goes much deeper than that. Because when you’re really talking about the long-haul, you start to get into some serious life-or-death shit. If you ended up with cancer tomorrow, would you trust your partner to stick with you and take care of you? Would you trust your partner to care for your child for a week by themselves? Do you trust them to handle your money or make sound decisions under pressure? Do you trust them to not turn on you or blame you when you make mistakes?
First, you simply must put time and energy into dating. A combination of online dating and socializing (perhaps including speed dating or singles mixers) is ideal. And second, you must go about dating the right way—from a positive attitude and an effective online dating profile (I can help you with that at www.ellyklein.com) to behavior on dates and communication with potential partners. If your approach to finding love is waiting for it to just come along, you’re taking a huge risk and will probably be single for a long time.

I been knowing this guy for 6 years and we just went out on our first date. And about a month later he’s been acting very weird. I would text him because I don’t want him to think I’m running him down. With I am not. All I want to know if he want to still be friends or not. It’s making me very upset about this situation. I just feel like he is using me. I am trying to be nice about to this guy knowing what all he did to me. We both are grown and I just feel like he need to know what he is doing is wrong. Not talking to me like he suppose to. Just lies. At the end of the day I still have to face this guy because his cousin is married to my aunt. I am 10 years younger than you. If you want to be more than friends let me know. I can’t do everything. I’m telling you what I want so hear me out please. At first you seemed like a very nice guy but now I can’t tell. I am falling for you. I really want this to work. You can ask me out I am ready now. I just need you to trust me.
Another relationship advice for women from men is – don’t pretend to like something when you really don’t. A guy would rather like that you say you don’t like football, than you sit in silence through the game pretending that you do. There’s nothing wrong with having different interests, that’s a part of what makes a relationship fun and, if you pretend to like something that really don’t, he’s only going to feel guilty, when he finds out that he made you sit through it.
It's easy to instantly start comparing your relationship or your partner to other relationships or partners, but it won't do you any good and it will upset your partner, Ray says. She says to ask yourself these questions: Are you in the relationship to compete with someone else? Are you in this relationship to impress other people? Or are you in the relationship because you like the person you're dating?
"A little bit of jealousy can be considered cute and healthy," says Ray. "But making demands on your partner of their time and restricting them from doing things they were doing before you started dating is a red flag." The expert says that it's common for couples who are newly dating to spend a lot of their free time with each other and give up some of their usual time with friends and family. However, avoid constantly texting, calling, or making demands to see your S.O. because you'll stress them out and may cause your partner to peddle back.
At one point, we got onto the subject of relationships, men and women. Between swigs of her martini, she told me she was going to share the most important lesson she ever learned about men, women and dating: Men are idiots. Women are crazy. If you can find a man who is less of an idiot than most, or a girl who is less crazy than most, then you’ve done well.
For the first time in 28 foster placements we will have a young lady in the house. My wife got a call from a social worker we know well, she was told of a young lady in desperate need of a safe haven and time to get things sorted. The Mrs said O.K. and here we are. I cleaned the guest room, its nice quiet and has its own bathroom. My wife drove to meet the social worker and we will learn more tomorrow but her story is basically dad is dead, mother is addict and missing in action they lived with uncle we know he is the abuser just not the extent of the abuse. We will have her files in a few days.
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But the problem is when all of the relationship’s happiness is contingent on the other person and both people are in a constant state of sacrifice. Just read that again. That sounds horrible. It reminds me of an old Marilyn Manson song, “Shoot myself to love you; if I loved myself, I’d be shooting you.” A relationship based on sacrifices cannot be sustained, and will eventually become damaging to both individuals in it.
If things get too heated, take a breather. Remove yourself from the situation and come back once emotions have cooled off a bit. This is a big one for me personally, sometimes when things get intense with my wife, I get overwhelmed and just leave for a while. I usually walk around the block 2-3 times and let myself seeth for about 15 minutes. Then I come back and we’re both a bit calmer and we can resume the discussion with a much more conciliatory tone.
If something is wrong, the other person probably can't read your mind. When a problem comes up, speak up at the right time. One study suggests young couples are less stressed when they talk out their issues than when they keep their feelings bottled up. And don't forget to say, "I love you." Expressing emotions-positive and negative-can benefit that bond.
And the only thing that can save you and your partner, that can cushion you both to the hard landing of human fallibility, is an unerring respect for one another, the fact that you hold each other in high esteem, believe in one another — often more than you each believe in yourselves — and trust that your partner is doing his/her best with what they’ve got.
“But there’s no way on God’s Green Earth this is her fault alone. There were times when I saw huge red flags. Instead of trying to figure out what in the world was wrong, I just plowed ahead. I’d buy more flowers, or candy, or do more chores around the house. I was a “good” husband in every sense of the word. But what I wasn’t doing was paying attention to the right things. She wasn’t telling me there wasn’t a problem but there was. And instead of saying something, I ignored all of the signals.”
I been knowing this guy for 6 years and we just went out on our first real date. About a month later he has been acting very weird. I don’t understand why he is acting like this. All I know he need to get in touch with me and let me know something. I am 10 years younger than this guy. However you need to be getting ready to find someone and marry. At the end of the day you are the one that’s getting old fast not me. I don’t know what else you want me to do. I am letting you know if you want me come get me. You know were I live. I just feel like you been using me and I am not going to put up with this no more. Be a man. Tell me what you need from me as a woman. I am a very beautiful young lady . You should not be treating me like this. All those other guys they mean nothing to me I want you.
"Throw us a bone. We all know that men often think they know more about something than they really may. It's in our chemical makeup. Sometimes you just have to let us set the tent up wrong when camping or take three hours to change your oilfor a lot of us, it's how we both try to impress you and show you we care. Sometimes you've got to let a guy be a guyeven if we're goofing up." Blake S.
You should let your partner know the things that you like and admire about them. You need to tell them about those qualities that make you proud of him. Make him realize his strengths to make him feel good about himself. One of the secrets of a long and fulfilling relationship is keeping the appreciation alive for your partner. Showing appreciation will work wonders in the relationship.
You can’t love anyone more than your willingness to love yourself. Through this advice I learned about the importance of caring for my mind, body, and spirit. I liken love to the oxygen mask on a plane. You have to apply it to yourself before applying it to the person next to you. This advice improved my chances of winning my wife’s hand in marriage. She was searching for true love. She wanted someone to spend the rest of her life with. Conveying to her that I loved myself signaled that I could be a pillar of strength and compassion.
While it may be easier for you to be vague with your partner, not open up to this person about your past, and keep yourself from feeling vulnerable, being able to have mutual trust with your partner is absolutely imperative in a relationship. When you're reliable, can count on each other, and have each other's best interests at heart, you're laying the groundwork for a meaningful and long-lasting connection.
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So today my(20f) cycle started and when I went to my underwear drawer I couldn’t find the pair I usually wear. So when my boyfriend(34m) got home I asked him if hed seen them and he told me he threw them out because they were ugly! I was already a bit angry but then he told me he only wants me to wear tampons and thongs from now on! I told him that I can’t and that I’ll get an infection but he just told me to wash regularly and that it won’t be a problem. We had a big fight and I told him I’m going to buy new underwear tomorrow but he said if he catches me wearing anything else he’s going to throw them out too!!

This is a complex one but necessary to surviving in a rapid dating world, says sex and relationship expert, Dr. Nikki Goldstein. “Building strength and self-confidence is key. The reality of it is, dating can be hard and feelings can be hurt. But if you know who you are and how you want to be treated then you won’t allow someone (or the dating scene) to continually hurt or discourage you.”
This is important for you and for him.    Your body and mind are reflections of your well-being so devote time and money to your self-care.  Your man is attached to you both emotionally and physically, so it is worth maintaining both your outward appearance and your mental health by paying attention to their good working state.  Don’t let yourself go.  Eat healthfully and incorporate physical movement into your day.  Take time to practice activities that nourish your spirit and challenge your mind.
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