"Saying and doing small, simple expressions of gratitude every day yields big rewards. When people feel recognized as special and appreciated, they're happier in that relationship and more motivated to make the relationship better and stronger. And when I say simple, I really mean it. Make small gestures that show you're paying attention: Hug, kiss, hold hands, buy a small gift, send a card, fix a favorite dessert, put gas in the car, or tell your partner, 'You're sexy,' 'You're the best dad,' or simply say 'Thank you for being so wonderful.'"
“The most important thing a women over 40 can do to increase her chances of meeting a great guy is to initiate contact with a shy guy,” says Richard Gosse, author of The Donald Trump Syndrome: Why Women Choose the Wrong Men to Love. “Forty percent of the American population is shy,” according to Dr. Phillip Zimbardo, Director of The Shyness Institute at Stanford University. “That’s millions of guys who seldom meet women because they are too shy. There’s very little competition for these bachelors—and you can have your pick, if you are willing to make the first move.”
I was born in Hong Kong. I was a surprise baby — my mother was in her 40s. I was the baby of the family. I was spoiled rotten. When I was 13, there was a woman, the second wife of a news publisher. She decided she wanted me to be her son’s wife. My parents told her that we were Christians, and that we didn’t believe in stuff like [arranged marriage]. I had never seen the boy! I was 13! So we never married.
I been knowing this guy for 6 years and we just went out on our first date. And about a month later he’s been acting very weird. I would text him because I don’t want him to think I’m running him down. With I am not. All I want to know if he want to still be friends or not. It’s making me very upset about this situation. I just feel like he is using me. I am trying to be nice about to this guy knowing what all he did to me. We both are grown and I just feel like he need to know what he is doing is wrong. Not talking to me like he suppose to. Just lies. At the end of the day I still have to face this guy because his cousin is married to my aunt. I am 10 years younger than you. If you want to be more than friends let me know. I can’t do everything. I’m telling you what I want so hear me out please. At first you seemed like a very nice guy but now I can’t tell. I am falling for you. I really want this to work. You can ask me out I am ready now. I just need you to trust me.
If you sense that all your efforts to improve your relationship are not bearing fruit, don’t delay the inevitable.  Yes, being single can appear scary at first, but better alone than stuck in a relationship that is draining the joy and spark out of you.  You don’t want to wake up at fifty or sixty years old to discover that you’ve wasted your love on a guy that never appreciated what you had to offer.

I just celebrated my 26th wedding anniversary. I definitely think about my spouse’s needs and feelings the majority of the time and try to be compromising. In return I feel he is 90% thinking of me and how to consider my feelings and be supportive and loving. Sometimes this means giving something up, but actually most times this means we both get what we want and we both feel very loved, supported, and that we are in each other’s corner. I don’t feel afraid to be giving, because he really has my best interests at heart. We are a terrific team and often we agree on what we want. And when we don’t, we tend to take turns supporting the other’s wants.
The point is not that you should act arrogantly or as if entitled, but that, if you act as if you have value in the world, others are more likely to treat you that way. In the hetero world, this means letting the guy pursue you. Which is to say, not calling too much or being too accommodating to his needs. Conversely, if he fails to call, hold your head high and walk away. Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but I still think that, in the early days of a relationship, the onus falls on the
As a male in the dating seen I feel most ladies don’t understand nice men because there a rare breed of men and most women enjoy bad boys but don’t understand the problems of doing so .well from what I’ve seen the bad boys are more likely to be verbally abusive and also abusive in the way they touch ladies and will also spoung the money out of a lady as well.as a nice man why do women egnor the nice guy ?
It’s true it’s so important to keep your friends, passions, interests, travel plans and nurture them while dating a guy to keep confident and loving yourself and not make him the center of your world. But it’s easier said than done I find. I find it works perfectly well at the beginning when you don’t know each other that well. He’s not in your life yet so you’re used to your routine and have some fun dates to looks forward to in between. But as soon as feelings are evolving, you start thinking about him more often, look forward to seeing him again, he treats you right, you see each other on a regular basis – and it hits you and it’s hard to focus on something else that gives you the same level of excitement and fun…! it’s true that once he becomes too important, things start to fall apart…he pulls away. So how do you keep your life and independence once emotions are involved? Why does it happen that what we had before him, start to have less of an importance and we drop our bounderies?
For the first time in 28 foster placements we will have a young lady in the house. My wife got a call from a social worker we know well, she was told of a young lady in desperate need of a safe haven and time to get things sorted. The Mrs said O.K. and here we are. I cleaned the guest room, its nice quiet and has its own bathroom. My wife drove to meet the social worker and we will learn more tomorrow but her story is basically dad is dead, mother is addict and missing in action they lived with uncle we know he is the abuser just not the extent of the abuse. We will have her files in a few days.
“Sure, we may all have had a ‘type’ that attracted us in the past, but to find a quality partner, it’s time to grow up,” says Laney Zukerman, a relationship coach and author. “There are many potential partners out there that are diamonds in the rough. It’s not always easy, but think outside the box.” And for more heartfelt advice, know the 40 Secrets of Couples Who’ve Been Married 40 Years. 
You need to get him intrigued, which will keep him wanting for more. You need to wait for him to text you back. When you ask him out, do not always say yes. You should sometimes reply saying that you have other plans and shift the date to some other day. This will make him feel that your time is valuable and that he needs to go out of his way to meet you in the middle.
Doubting your partner may be a symptom of a larger problem: relationship insecurity. And women who feel insecure in their relationships may be at greater risk for health issues like a weakened immune system. Some advice for reducing envy, at least temporarily? Stay off Facebook and other social networking sites. (Related: Why Your Anxiety Disorder Makes Online Dating So Damn Hard)
"This may sound obvious, but you can't imagine how many people come to couples therapy too late, when their partner is done with a relationship and wants to end it. It is very important to realize that everyone potentially has a breaking point, and if their needs are not met or they don't feel seen by the other, they will more than likely find it somewhere else. Many people assume that just because they are OK without things they want so is their partner. 'No relationship is perfect' shouldn't be used as a rationalization for complacency."
3. Some men ARE afraid of commitment (so they might need a little more time than you to decide if you’re the one). Even if a guy is relationship ready, if you bring up on date three that you’re ready for a relationship he’ll likely question whether you really want to be in a relationship with HIM or if you’re ready for a relationship with anyone. He’s going to wonder how after two dinners and one museum trip you already know that you want him to be your boyfriend. So even though it’s great to let a new guy know where you are in your life or about your dating goals, take the time to get to know him before you decide. (We recommend that you hold that conversation until at least date three or four). As a result, he’ll feel a whole lot better about the possibility of having a relationship if you give him a little time. Don’t rush the getting-to-know-each-other part. Not only is this phase of dating exciting, but it also allows you time to “data date” and collect the information you need to determine if he’s boyfriend material AND someone you want to be in a relationship with.
When an argument is over, it’s over. Some couples went as far as to make this the golden rule in their relationship. When you’re done fighting, it doesn’t matter who was right and who was wrong, it doesn’t matter if someone was mean and someone was nice. It’s over. It’s in the past. And you both agree to leave it there, not bring it up every month for the next three years.
"Every couple has what I call a 'good conflict.' In long-term relationships, we often feel that the thing you most need from your partner is the very thing he or she is least capable of giving you. This isn't the end of love—it's the beginning of deeper love! Don't run from that conflict. It's supposed to be there. In fact, it's your key to happiness as a couple—if you both can name it and commit to working on it together as a couple. If you approach your 'good conflicts' with bitterness, blame, and contempt, your relationship will turn toxic."
If something bothers you in the relationship, you must be willing to say it. Saying it builds trust and trust builds intimacy. It may hurt, but you still need to do it. No one else can fix your relationship for you. Nor should anyone else. Just as causing pain to your muscles allows them to grow back stronger, often introducing some pain into your relationship through vulnerability is the only way to make the relationship stronger.
"Saying and doing small, simple expressions of gratitude every day yields big rewards. When people feel recognized as special and appreciated, they're happier in that relationship and more motivated to make the relationship better and stronger. And when I say simple, I really mean it. Make small gestures that show you're paying attention: Hug, kiss, hold hands, buy a small gift, send a card, fix a favorite dessert, put gas in the car, or tell your partner, 'You're sexy,' 'You're the best dad,' or simply say 'Thank you for being so wonderful.'"
I really love this kind of relationship but it’s just that my female brain goes way off in places where I should understand what is going on. Afterwards I feel quite immature and stupid for doing so and not keeping composure but it’s hard to bag in emotions. But then again I’ll work on it. After all seems to me that guys like the same things we gals do. I’ll keep that in mind. Thanks again for the healthy tips. Owe you guys one.
One of the most important pieces of relationship advice for women is to have fun with your partner. Being able to joke around, go on adventures, and laugh together as a couple will help you be better able to weather any future storms that may arise. You and your partner should make an effort to go out, bring back date night, travel to exotic places, and try new things as a couple in order to keep the spark alive between the two of you. So instead of sitting on the couch each night binge-watching Netflix, take your relationship out of the house and find new and exciting activities to try.
What a stressful article! I mean, “Look sexy, get kinky, be aggressive, give him space, take care of yourself, don’t be a drama queen, don’t try so hard…” Blah blah blah!!! Be you. Be as crazy and assertive and talkative and love yourself the way you are. Don’t break your back trying to look how you think he wants you to look, or force yourself into an uncomfortable sexual encounter because you don’t want him to get bored and wonder off… Men need to be held accountable too! And if you are doing everything to make him stay, you’re only going to resent him for not putting in as much effort. And he won’t. Because he’s a dude. So just be you and find someone you don’t feel the need to CHANGE or CHANGE FOR.
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