Trust is like a china plate. If you drop it and it breaks, you can put it back together with a lot of work and care. If you drop it and break it a second time, it will split into twice as many pieces and it will require far more time and care to put back together again. But drop and break it enough times, and it will shatter into so many pieces that you will never be able to put it back together again, no matter what you do.
As a male in the dating seen I feel most ladies don’t understand nice men because there a rare breed of men and most women enjoy bad boys but don’t understand the problems of doing so .well from what I’ve seen the bad boys are more likely to be verbally abusive and also abusive in the way they touch ladies and will also spoung the money out of a lady as well.as a nice man why do women egnor the nice guy ?
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Out of the hundreds of analogies I saw these past few weeks, one stuck with me. A nurse emailed saying that she used to work with a lot of geriatric patients. And one day she was talking to a man in his late-80s about marriage and why his had lasted so long. The man said something like, “relationships exist as waves, people need to learn how to ride them.” Upon asking him to explain, he said that, like the ocean, there are constant waves of emotion going on within a relationship, ups and downs — some waves last for hours, some last for months or even years. The key is understanding that few of those waves have anything to do with the quality of the relationship — people lose jobs, family members die, couples relocate, switch careers, make a lot of money, lose a lot of money. Your job as a committed partner is to simply ride the waves with the person you love, regardless of where they go. Because ultimately, none of these waves last. And you simply end up with each other.
“Don’t ever be with someone because someone else pressured you to. I got married the first time because I was raised Catholic and that’s what you were supposed to do. Wrong. I got married the second time because I was miserable and lonely and thought having a loving wife would fix everything for me. Also wrong. Took me three tries to figure out what should have been obvious from the beginning, the only reason you should ever be with the person you’re with is because you simply love being around them. It really is that simple.”
“Be sure you have a life of your own, otherwise it is harder to have a life together. What do I mean? Have your own interests, your own friends, your own support network, and your own hobbies. Overlap where you can, but not being identical should give you something to talk about and expose one another to. It helps to expand your horizons as a couple, but isn’t so boring as both living the exact same life.”
Doubting your partner may be a symptom of a larger problem: relationship insecurity. And women who feel insecure in their relationships may be at greater risk for health issues like a weakened immune system. Some advice for reducing envy, at least temporarily? Stay off Facebook and other social networking sites. (Related: Why Your Anxiety Disorder Makes Online Dating So Damn Hard)
Seriously. “David Ian Perrett, an expert in the science of human attraction, found that men consistently rate photos of women taken by a man as more attractive than photos taken by a woman,” says Scott Valdez, founder of ViDA. “So if you’re investing in pro photos for your dating profiles, book a male photographer, and if you’re taking casual snaps with friends, hand your phone to one of the guys.”
Other good advice: “Always be unexpected.” This doesn’t have to be in grand gestures, but predictability in a relationship = boring = death of romance. Worst Advice? “Don’t worry, it’ll happen.” If I wanted to learn French, if someone told me “Don’t worry, it’ll happen,” how stupid does that sound?! Dating is a skill set like every other and you get out of it what you put into it.
First, you simply must put time and energy into dating. A combination of online dating and socializing (perhaps including speed dating or singles mixers) is ideal. And second, you must go about dating the right way—from a positive attitude and an effective online dating profile (I can help you with that at www.ellyklein.com) to behavior on dates and communication with potential partners. If your approach to finding love is waiting for it to just come along, you’re taking a huge risk and will probably be single for a long time.
“But there’s no way on God’s Green Earth this is her fault alone. There were times when I saw huge red flags. Instead of trying to figure out what in the world was wrong, I just plowed ahead. I’d buy more flowers, or candy, or do more chores around the house. I was a “good” husband in every sense of the word. But what I wasn’t doing was paying attention to the right things. She wasn’t telling me there wasn’t a problem but there was. And instead of saying something, I ignored all of the signals.”
4. We always want you to invite us in after a first date, but we secretly hope you’ll say no. If you want to show a man that you’re girlfriend material, don’t hook up with him on the first date. It will probably make him wonder if you would do the very same thing with every other Tom, Dick and Harry. This is also a good way to feel out whether he’s looking for some casual fun or something a little more serious. Often we believe that a man will expect us to get physical from the get-go and that if we don’t, men will lose interest if it doesn’t happen right away. In fact, it’s actually the opposite. It’s not a deal breaker every time, but it does make the “getting to know you” part more complicated.
Tory: SUCH a great question. I agree – it’s all fun and games in the beginning when you’re just getting to know each other, but once you start to fall in love it can feel like you don’t want to do anything except be with him! Unfortunately, that’s when men start to lose interest, because you stop being the vibrant, independent and fun woman he first met. The key is to remain aware that it’s your pattern to let go of your life once you get into a relationship. When you feel yourself letting your independence slip, remind yourself how it important it is to your happiness and your relationship that you continue to explore your interests, hobbies and friends outside of the relationship. Good luck. 🙂
“You are absolutely not going to be absolutely gaga over each other every single day for the rest of your lives, and all this ‘happily ever after’ bullshit is just setting people up for failure. They go into relationships with these unrealistic expectations. Then, the instant they realize they aren’t ‘gaga’ anymore, they think the relationship is broken and over, and they need to get out. No! There will be days, or weeks, or maybe even longer, when you aren’t all mushy-gushy in-love. You’re even going to wake up some morning and think, “Ugh, you’re still here….” That’s normal! And more importantly, sticking it out is totally worth it, because that, too, will change. In a day, or a week, or maybe even longer, you’ll look at that person and a giant wave of love will inundate you, and you’ll love them so much you think your heart can’t possibly hold it all and is going to burst. Because a love that’s alive is also constantly evolving. It expands and contracts and mellows and deepens. It’s not going to be the way it used to be, or the way it will be, and it shouldn’t be. I think if more couples understood that, they’d be less inclined to panic and rush to break up or divorce.”
Keep in mind that you need to be optimistic and a firm believer that there always someone out there for every person. You should not make yourself believe true love does not exist and you are going to end up alone. You should be willing to put in effort to find out the right guy for yourself. If you love one another, then it will not seem like hard work.
“But there’s no way on God’s Green Earth this is her fault alone. There were times when I saw huge red flags. Instead of trying to figure out what in the world was wrong, I just plowed ahead. I’d buy more flowers, or candy, or do more chores around the house. I was a “good” husband in every sense of the word. But what I wasn’t doing was paying attention to the right things. She wasn’t telling me there wasn’t a problem but there was. And instead of saying something, I ignored all of the signals.”

In case you feel that you are guilty of overcalling, then you need to take a break and find out if your partner puts in the effort to communicate with you. If he does, then this is certainly happy news for you. If he does not, then you need to move on. You need to be with someone who will want to reach out to you, call you frequently and ask you out.
I agree with your advice. These were the exact mistakes I did in all my previous relationships which of course was a total disaster. Let me tell you all my story. I was in my mid 30’s, my life was a disaster with many failed relationships in the past. There was always this empty void which could only be filled by a relationship and I only realized this later in my life. Just when I had given up all hopes I came across this dating site ( I was little skeptical about dating sites long story short I found a perfect guy and next month 20th is our wedding day. Its been three years now and I’ve cherished every minute of my life with him 🙂

"It's a turnoff for me when a girl pretends to like something just because I like it. 'You like the Knicks? Weird, I love the Knicks! Who's that tall one again? Who are you and what are your interests? If we disagree about stuff, let's have fun disagreeing about it and if any of it winds up being too important, then, well, it won't work out and that's fine." Miles P.
As a male in the dating seen I feel most ladies don’t understand nice men because there a rare breed of men and most women enjoy bad boys but don’t understand the problems of doing so .well from what I’ve seen the bad boys are more likely to be verbally abusive and also abusive in the way they touch ladies and will also spoung the money out of a lady as well.as a nice man why do women egnor the nice guy ?
I agree with your advice. These were the exact mistakes I did in all my previous relationships which of course was a total disaster. Let me tell you all my story. I was in my mid 30’s, my life was a disaster with many failed relationships in the past. There was always this empty void which could only be filled by a relationship and I only realized this later in my life. Just when I had given up all hopes I came across this dating site ( I was little skeptical about dating sites long story short I found a perfect guy and next month 20th is our wedding day. Its been three years now and I’ve cherished every minute of my life with him 🙂
"It's really attractive when a girl takes initiative in bed; a guy won't think any less of you. It doesn't always need to be a tit for tat thing with giving and receiving. The norm of so many of my relationships has been doing 80 percent of the work and taking 80 percent of the initiative in the bedroom. I can't explain how refreshing it is when it feels like it's 50-50." Greg G.

I agree with your advice. These were the exact mistakes I did in all my previous relationships which of course was a total disaster. Let me tell you all my story. I was in my mid 30’s, my life was a disaster with many failed relationships in the past. There was always this empty void which could only be filled by a relationship and I only realized this later in my life. Just when I had given up all hopes I came across this dating site ( I was little skeptical about dating sites long story short I found a perfect guy and next month 20th is our wedding day. Its been three years now and I’ve cherished every minute of my life with him 🙂


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I have never felt like I missed out on a marriage or a child. I decided to make a life out of taking care of other people’s children — they are all my children. And my family has so many children who love me all the same. The life that I had growing up was too tough for me. I grew up deprived and I definitely did not want that for a child. I never wanted to bring a child onto this earth unless I could support that child and give it everything that it wanted.
“You may have a great body, but your attempt to show that you are incredibly hot in your 40’s is not the best way to be taken seriously,” says Rhonda Milrad, LCSW, relationship therapist and founder of online relationship community, Relationup. “Your date will be objectifying you before even meeting you, and thinking about getting you naked rather than getting to know you.”
Another relationship advice for women from men is – make sure to show some appreciation to your man. Men hate being run down and picked on but they do love being appreciated. An honest opinion, even a negative one, will be well received, if it is sincere, but constant nit picking will just lose its effect after a while, especially, if you also don’t give praise, where praise is due.
If something is wrong, the other person probably can't read your mind. When a problem comes up, speak up at the right time. One study suggests young couples are less stressed when they talk out their issues than when they keep their feelings bottled up. And don't forget to say, "I love you." Expressing emotions-positive and negative-can benefit that bond.
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The other “wrong” reason to enter into a relationship is, like Greg said, to “fix” yourself. This desire to use the love of someone else to soothe your own emotional problems inevitably leads to codependence, an unhealthy and damaging dynamic between two people where they tacitly agree to use each other’s love as a distraction from their own self-loathing. We’ll get more into codependence later in this article, but for now, it’s useful to point out that love, itself, is neutral. It is something that can be both healthy or unhealthy, helpful or harmful, depending on why and how you love someone else and are loved by someone else. By itself, love is never enough to sustain a relationship.

Dive into the secrets of how men really think and behave to get your attention and keep you around. This book is written by someone who knows how guys think and pursue women, and he wants to help you learn to use those tactics in your favor. There is a specific way men think about and go after who they want, and if you want him too, you will have to first understand where he is headed and meet him there. Everything you ever wanted to know about the real way men are, and more.

Have your non-negotiables and boundaries, but dating with a strict itemized wish list—he must make this much, be this tall, drive this car, be this funny—will only hold you back from men who could be great for you in real life and limit you to men who only look good on paper, says Goldstein. “If you need a wish list it should be small and include feeling words instead of car makes and job titles,” she adds.

"The thought of being vulnerable is a scary proposition for most people," admits Ray. She says that it's how you show your true self, at the risk of being hurt. When you date someone new, showing this side can deepen your connection and build trust. "Vulnerability can be a gift to the person who's wanting to know you on a deeper level," she explains.
You can’t love anyone more than your willingness to love yourself. Through this advice I learned about the importance of caring for my mind, body, and spirit. I liken love to the oxygen mask on a plane. You have to apply it to yourself before applying it to the person next to you. This advice improved my chances of winning my wife’s hand in marriage. She was searching for true love. She wanted someone to spend the rest of her life with. Conveying to her that I loved myself signaled that I could be a pillar of strength and compassion.
Men want a simple and straightforward relationship. No mind games, no manipulation and don’t expect a man to read your mind. Straight forward communication is what a guy wants: an agreement on how fast a relationship is moving and the direction in which it is heading, and if you don’t like something, make sure to tell him about it without expecting him to read your mind.
“Shitty, codependent relationships have an inherent stability because you’re both locked in an implicit bargain to tolerate the other person’s bad behavior because they’re tolerating yours, and neither of you wants to be alone. On the surface, it seems like “compromising in relationships because that’s what people do,” but the reality is that resentments build up, and both parties become the other person’s emotional hostage against having to face and deal with their own bullshit (it took me 14 years to realize this, by the way).”
It’s true it’s so important to keep your friends, passions, interests, travel plans and nurture them while dating a guy to keep confident and loving yourself and not make him the center of your world. But it’s easier said than done I find. I find it works perfectly well at the beginning when you don’t know each other that well. He’s not in your life yet so you’re used to your routine and have some fun dates to looks forward to in between. But as soon as feelings are evolving, you start thinking about him more often, look forward to seeing him again, he treats you right, you see each other on a regular basis – and it hits you and it’s hard to focus on something else that gives you the same level of excitement and fun…! it’s true that once he becomes too important, things start to fall apart…he pulls away. So how do you keep your life and independence once emotions are involved? Why does it happen that what we had before him, start to have less of an importance and we drop our bounderies?
True love — that is, deep, abiding love that is impervious to emotional whims or fancy — is a choice. It’s a constant commitment to a person regardless of the present circumstances. It’s a commitment to a person who you understand isn’t going to always make you happy — nor should they! — and a person who will need to rely on you at times, just as you will rely on them.

"Listening is a skill and a communication tool most people don't do very well," says Ray. When you give your partner your undivided attention, it allows them to feel both heard and appreciated. When you show curiosity about who they are and what they're up to, it not only indicates your interest in their life but makes them feel unique and special.
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One person even said that she and her husband have “annual reviews” every year. She immediately told me not to laugh, but that she was serious. They have annual reviews where they discuss everything that’s going on in the household that they like and don’t like and what they can do in the coming year to change it. This sort of stuff sounds lame but it’s what keeps couples in touch with what’s going on with each other. And because they always have their fingers on the pulse of each other’s needs, they’re more likely to grow together rather than grow apart.
The common theme of the advice here was be pragmatic. If the wife is a lawyer and spends 50 hours at the office every week, and the husband is an artist and can work from home most days, it makes more sense for him to handle most of the day-to-day parenting duties. If the wife’s standard of cleanliness looks like a Home & Garden catalog, and the husband has gone six months without even noticing the light fixture hanging from the ceiling, then it makes sense that the wife handles more of the home cleaning duties.
Your man wants to know you appreciate him for who he is and what he brings to the relationship. If you love him, make sure he knows. Keep in mind Dr. John Gottman’s 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interchanges. For every one negative remark you make, try to think of five positive things to say, to counteract the negative effects of a critical word. Try carving out a few minutes each day before bed where you share with your partner what you appreciate about him and why.
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